The Qur’an -like the Bible does not set down the age for marriage.
“And those who no longer expect menstruation among your women-if you doubt, then their period is three months, and those who have not menstruated. And for those who are pregnant, their term is until they give birth. And whoever fears Allah-He will make for him of this matter ease.” (Qur’an 65:4)
This verse can be used to suggest that a person can marry a girl who has not even had menses. In science one of these terms is called: Amenorrhea.
As long as there is ovulation a woman can still get pregnant.
Again the Qur’an does not give a definite age requirement. It simply gives some guidelines.
“Test well the orphans, until they reach the age of marrying; then, if you perceive in them right judgment, deliver to them their property; consume it not wastefully and hastily ere they are grown. If any man is rich, let him be abstinent; if poor, let him consume in reason. And when you deliver to them their property, take witnesses over them; God suffices for a reckoner.”(Qur’an 65:4)
I used to be inclined towards a Quranite -who goes by the pseudonym ‘Joseph Islam’ to believe that the above text was strong proof not to marry what we would in modern times ‘very young females’. However, I realize that his analysis of this text was not sound.
This text says nothing about the age of marrying any female. It is simply stating that their property will be held in trust until two things happen.
A] Is that that the female is married. Says absolutely nothing about what age would be appropriate for marriage.
B] That this female can have her property delivered to her when you ‘perceive in them right judgment’.
People try and make what they perceive to be a logical jump by surmising that if one has to be ‘right judgment’ to take ownership of property implying somehow a female who is a ‘teenager’ or ‘young adult’ would also need to be in ‘right judgment’ to bare children.
Well according to the designer Allah -who knows best- that is not the case. Insh’Allah I will discuss this further down the article in the section on analyzing this through evolution.
The following verse dispels any idea that Joseph Islam or others may have about females needing to be in ‘right judgment’ to bare children.
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend from their means on them.” (Qur’an 4:34)
Also, notice something else about the text above in the “let him consume in reason” -maybe a poor man who has taken in orphans that he has a right over some of their property/wealth in reason. It does not specify any amount. This is delegated to an authority outside of the Qur’an. If there is any dispute an arbiter or legal authority will be brought in.
I love brother Sabeel and his gentle character. (I pray that Allah continues to bless and support him.) This video I feel was a missed opportunity to both capitalize and educate Christians on a fundamental point that they constantly use to assail the Blessed Messenger (saw)
Now notice that this man is quite combative. His body language, invading personal space everything about him is combative. He is trying to corner this Muslim brother Sabeel Ahmed over the age of Ayesha (r.a)
Sabeel Ahmed is of course of those Muslims who are apologists who often don’t state plainly their view on something. Now notice that at 14:30 the whole flow of this exchange completely changes for a moment. Once the man made the mistake of saying ‘according to this book (the Bible) marriage to a child is wrong’ Sabeel asked him simply to show him where this is stated? Show him one verse. The man IMMEDIATELY disengaged eye contact and turned towards the other man.
Sabeel Ahmed (May Allah bless him for his efforts) did not do two things here
1) He didn’t stay focused on that point! 16 minutes of intense discussion and he let that man right off the hook. If he could get the man to admit that the Bible does not give an age for marriage he could have:
2) Ask the man on what basis does he object?
SCIENCE / EVOLUTION -on what AGE is appropriate for a female to bear children.
“That was the law of Allah in the case of those who lived before and there will never be any change in the law of Allah.” (Qur’an 33:63)
So whatever comes about that is also corroborated with science is something that Allah has decreed. I think there is no Muslim who would dispute this.
The opening article says:
“Girls usually get their first menstrual period when they’re 12 or 13. It’s a sign that your body is maturing, so that one day if you want to, you should be able to have a baby.”
So for all the Atheist and Agnostics and those who decry there is no objective morality and yet attack Islamic oral traditions that ascribe to the Blessed Messenger-saw, that he married a female at a very young age it should be noted that mother nature has determined that the moment a female has menses and produces eggs -she can have a baby.
There is no one that can dispute this.
That means that if we completely remove religion from the picture, mother nature-aka-evolution has decreed that a human female is viable to propagate her species at a certain age range.
It has nothing to with education, it has nothing to do with mental capacity and everything to do with her ability to have children.
So the Qur’an does not give any particular requirements or age. This is left up to good common sense, and what is appropriate from one culture to the other.
I have even had conversations with fellow Americans on the appropriate age for people to be together and they were all over the map.
However, what I did find interesting is that among progressive /liberal types in the United States all types of couple arrangements are acceptable such as LGBT, people who are swingers, or share their partners, etc.
Yet, they really do frown upon age disparity. Whereas in Asia I have seen and witnessed very often 10 and 15 year age gaps between couples.
So there is wisdom in the Qur’an leaving these matters to time/location/custom/culture.
And Allah knows best.