I Love You. I Hate You. It depends.

 

Allah makes the believers steadfast with the firm Word ˹of faith˺ in this worldly life and the Hereafter. And Allah leaves the wrongdoers to stray. For Allah does what He wills.” (Qur’an 14:27)

 

I love you, I hate you, it depends.

One of the more fascinating curiosities that I have observed among fellow Muslims, as well as people of other faiths is how subjective they view God’s interaction and dealings with other people, which is curiously reflected through their own feelings towards said individual(s).

 

Case in point. Let us say that I happen to like a brother Hamza. Hamza is a good friend of mine. Hamza and I believe pretty much the same things about the religion.

 

So when Hamza gets a marriage proposal, gets married, has a child, graduates, gets promoted, gets a raise, gets recognition as a friend of Hamza’s I tend to say ,”Mash’Allah. Allah (swt) has indeed blessed you with so much.”

 

However, when Hamza gets a rejected for marriage proposal, gets a divorce, loses a child to cancer, fails grad school, gets fired from his job, gets a chronic illness I tend to say, “Mash’Allah, Allah test the ones he loves. This is because Allah loves you and wishes to bring you closer to him.”

 

So now lets’ talk about brother Hameed. Hameed is someone I despise. I just don’t like him. I don’t like the way he talks, the way he walks, the way he carries himself. I don’t like that he belongs to a different manhaj then me. But even if he did belong to the same manhaj as me, I just don’t sync with Hameed.

 

So when Hameed gets a marriage proposal, gets married, has a child, graduates, gets promoted, gets a raise, gets recognition as an enemy of Hameed I tend to say ,”Allah is distracting Hameed with the dunya. Hameed prefers the dunya to the remembrance of Allah (swt). This is a trial from Allah for him.”

 

However, when Hameed gets a rejected for marriage proposal, gets a divorce, loses a child to cancer, fails grad school, gets fired from his job, gets a chronic illness I tend to say, “Hameed is getting exactly what he deserves. This is from the balla/the wrath of Allah (swt). Hameed is one of the ungrateful servants of Allah, if indeed he serves him at all.”

 

You see the point brothers/sisters? Often, how we feel towards an individual or individuals or another group or sect or people, that will interpret and inform what we feel their station or status is before Allah (swt). We look at Allah’s relationship to that individual(s), sect, group, people, through our own lenses.

 

I don’t know how many times I have seen these exact scenarios play out and almost without fail a persons situation rather perceived as success or test will be seen as both positively or both negatively depending upon our own feelings towards that individual.

 

We play judge and jury when in reality none of us knows the condition and state of another individual and their relationship to their Creator.

 

 

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