“And speak to people good [words] and establish prayer and give zakah.” Then you turned away, except a few of you, and you were refusing.” (Qur’an 2:83)
So by mercy from Allah, [O Muhammed], you were lenient with them. And if you had been rude and harsh in heart, they would have fled from about you. So pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter. And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah. Indeed, Allah loves those who rely upon Him. (Qur’an 3:159)
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Putting a person in dissociation or disavowal does not mean that we have ill manners towards such a person.
Shaykh Ahmed Al Khalili (h) mentions the followinig:
“Many people imagine that piety, God-consciousness, and asceticism are expressed in frowning, scowling, and being harsh with others. This has nothing to do with the truth. These good manners, no doubt, must be present in dealings with all people. even with polytheists, even with non-Muslims. These very manners are what attract people to the religion. God, glorified and exalted be He, said: “And speak to people good [words]” . This is a matter of character and He did not say “Speak to the believers good” or “Speak to the Muslims good” or “Speak to the pious good”; rather, He said: “And speak to people good.” Likewise, when someone asked the Prophet, peace be upon him, for counsel and sought his advice, he said to him: “Say: My Lord is God, then remain steadfast, and treat all people with excellent character.” He did not say “treat the believers with excellent character,” but rather said “treat all people—across their various classes with excellent character.” On this basis, it is a great error that some imagine that the more harsh and rigid one is, the more committed to religion they are. Especially in dealings with the non-pious or in dealings with non-Muslims. This is a major mistake. Many people imagine that piety, God-consciousness, and asceticism are expressed in frowning, in turning away one’s face, and in harshness toward people. This is not true in the least. God, glorified and exalted be He, makes it clear to the Prophet, peace be upon him, that it was because of the compassion, gentleness, and good companionship he possessed that he won the hearts of his companions and drew them to him. Had he been otherwise, they would have fled from him. So if the companions of the Prophet, peace be upon him, would have fled from him had he been other than what he was with his lofty, virtuous character and fine sentiments. Then how about others? How could it have been possible for polytheists to abandon their religions and leave behind their cherished customs of venerating the deities they used to worship, and the legacies of their fathers and forefathers? How could they have been able to emerge from that?” – Shaykh Ahmed Al Khalili (h).
Another point to note is that the manifest declaration of disavowal regarding specific individuals and entities is reserved solely for scholars and jurists who are well-versed in the detailed rulings pertaining to it.
As for us laypeople, the innocence of the general statement suffices. Without singling out specific individuals. Except for those whom the Qur’an has identified as disbelievers or destined for the Fire.
May Allah (swt) cause us to be among those who obey Him and follow his commands and avoid his prohibitions and to follow the blessed precedent of the Blessed Prophet Muhammed (saw).
May Allah Guide the Ummah.
May Allah Forgive the Ummah.
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